Lesson Two: Buyer Beware

Be very, very, very, very careful about anyone you meet on a dating site. Most sites will gladly take your money with a weak caution to be careful, but they won’t vet profiles or cross-reference images. So scammers will return, often with the same name and image, but with a different location or other detail.

Many of us meet scamming catfish on “reputable” dating sites. In my case, I figured by the time someone went through the compatibility tests of eHarmony, they would have been legitimate. Wrong. Neither compatibility tests nor cost is a deterrent. After my experience with Michael/Thomas/Donald, I reactivated my eHarmony subscription just to see if he’d try to contact me again. “Michael” didn’t use Michael Scheibe’s image again, but every week at least three matches were getting kicked off the site. And even after my subscription expired, eHarmony continued to send notices about matches getting kicked off the site.

I’ve had friends who’ve been on Christian Mingle, Match, Our Time and even Plenty of Fish report seeing Michael Scheibe’s image. So really, unless the site promises some sort of background check, scammers will continue to use Mr. Scheibe’s and others’ images in their relentless search for prey.